it’s no secret that the girls who look good, feel good and vice versa. taking care of yourself is a discipline that is attractive and rewarding. living a healthy lifestyle is a way to show yourself love and ultimately, respect. taking care of yourself also shows other people the value you place on yourself and your lifestyle. if you treat yourself like you’re important, others will treat you like you’re important. 2024 will be the year of health and wellness so let’s get started and take these last few months in 2023 to go into the new year completely fresh.
:: visit your doctor ::
make an appointment with your dentist, primary care doctor, obgyn, dermatologist, and any other doctor you may need to see. get routine blood work, check for vitamin deficiencies, check to make sure your organs are functioning property, get your physical, eye, and gynecological exams done. get dental x-rays and a cleaning; literally make sure your baseline is healthy.
:: take supplements ::
speak with your doctor about what supplements you should be taking. vitamins, powders, prebiotics and probiotics each have their purpose. i take my supplements every morning with breakfast and i’ve noticed such a difference in my hormone regulation, skin, hair growth, energy level, and sleep hygiene.
:: get enough sleep ::
start with the basics of sleep hygiene. depending on your age, research how many hours of sleep you should be getting each night for optimal health. for most adults, this is between 7-9 hours of uninterrupted sleep. some basic before bed sleep hygiene tips are: turn off electronics 30-60 minutes before bed, turn the air conditioning down, lay down in a clutter-free bed, and turn off the lights. if you normally wake up in the middle of the night, practice avoiding screen time. instead, work on adding an extra hour of sleep every 1-2 weeks. for example, if you normally run off of 6 hours of sleep per night, aim for 7 hours of sleep. if you have slept 7 hours consecutively for a week or two, increase your sleep by another hour. eventually, you’ll hit your sleep goals.
:: eat more greens ::
have a cold-pressed green juice, incorporate more salads and veggies in your diet. swap out your veggies weekly. for example, one week have mostly broccoli and spinach with your meals. for the next week, incorporate kale and green beans with your meals. what also helps is by taking a greens powder to get the nutritional benefits of the greens. just remember that it’s better to eat greens for fiber and volume.
:: eat the rainbow ::
with the addition to eating more greens, eat colorful foods daily. fruit and veggies have the most beautiful colors to them so incorporate the rainbow in your diet for nutrients, fiber, and energy.
:: get active ::
moving your body can be done in plenty of different ways— biking, swimming, hiking, walking, running, pilates, yoga, playing sports, dancing; you get the point. regular physical activity isn’t just for a hot and toned body, it’s also for cardiovascular health, brain and mental health, endocrine health, and skeletal (muscle and bone) health.
:: drink water ::
8 cups or half your body in ounces per day is perfectly fine. the more active you are, the more you may need to hydrate. carry a water bottle with you for instant hydration wherever you go.
:: meditation ::
even just 5 minutes of meditation, both morning and night, can bring you great benefits such as improved sleep, improved mental health, better task performance, mental clarity, less stress, and better focus.
[ID: A poem titled: Kupu rere kē.
[in italics] My friend was advised to italicise all the foreign words in
her poems.
This advice came from a well-meaning woman
with NZ poetry on her business card
and an English accent in her mouth.
I have been thinking about this advice.
The convention of italicising words from other languages clarifies that some words are imported:
it ensures readers can tell the difference between a foreign language
and the language of home.
I have been thinking about this advice.
Marking the foreign words is also a kindness:
every potential reader is reassured
that although you’re expected to understand the rest of the text,
it’s fine to consult a dictionary or native speaker for help with the italics.
I have been thinking about this advice.
Because I am a contrary person, at first I was outraged — but after a while I could see she had a point:
when the foreign words are camouflaged in plain type you can forget how they came to be there, out of place, in the first place.
I have been thinking about this advice
and I have decided to follow it.
Now all of my readers will be able to remember
which words truly belong in -[end italics]- Aotearoa -[italics]- and which do not.
Next image is the futurama meme: to shreds you say…]
I feel like in the rush of “throw out etiquette who cares what fork you use or who gets introduced first” we actually lost a lot of social scripts that the younger generations are floundering without.
A lot of tough situations where we now feel like we “don’t know what to do or say” had social scripts just a couple of generations ago and they might have been canned phrases or robotic actions but they could still be meant sincerely and unfortunately we haven’t replaced them with any more sincere or easier new script.
a lot of people are giving examples in the notes of things they just find annoying like not using headphones in public, but OP is talking about actual literal scripts of things to say in awkward situations
if you have a date or two with someone and you don’t see a relationship developing? most millennials / gen Zers just end up ghosting. but a social script that might have been taught and rehearsed in the past could be:
“I really appreciated getting dinner with you the other night and I enjoyed your company, but I’m afraid I didn’t feel a spark. I wish you the best, and hope you find that special someone!”
like it sounds kind of trite but it was at least something to say and it can still be meant with kind sincerity. it also communicates in 2 sentences that you don’t want to see them romantically again, but there aren’t any hard feelings about that. that’s it!!! that’s all it takes!!!
Another example is that at parties a lot of people talk about how awkward it is to mingle or talk to people they dont know. But at old timey parties that was traditionally the HOST’S job, and there was a specific scripted way of doing it that eased the process! The host would bring you in, introduce you and maybe even a little bit about you like what you did for a living, and then guide you to a group you could talk to. They didn’t just let you in the door and then ditch you to fend for yourself in a sea of strangers. That would be unthinkable and no one would be surprised if a get-together like that wound up being awkward.
A really good host would actually provide a topic of conversation based on things you and the person they were introducing you to had in common.
At networking events I’ve gone to, where there’s no host who knows everybody, good networkers pick up the slack. They go around the room once making just enough small talk to learn some useful info about a good portion of of the people in the room, and then circle back around and go, “Oh hey I was just talking to X over there and he’s looking for someone who does Y for his next project; you should go talk to him.” You can do something similar at parties, referring people to other people you made smalltalk with you have the same hobbies or like the same kind of movies.
